What does it take to change a limiting belief into a positive one?
As much as we wish it worked, we can’t just say, “I believe!” and wave a magic wand to fix the problem. To move from an old limiting belief to a new empowering one takes some work. But it’s a critical skill that is worthy of time and energy. The three keys to transforming your beliefs are willingness, courage, and practice. It takes willingness to choose a new empowering belief, courage to act on it, and practice to do it again and again until your reality shifts and your trust in yourself deepens. And it will!
Grasp this concept and you’ll have access to one of the most powerful tools for impacting your reality.
Everyone has attitudes and beliefs about the various aspects of their lives. Our opinions are long-term parts of who we are, and they’ve been developing for as many years as we’ve been alive. Human beings are meaning-making machines, constantly interpreting our experiences and the world around us and assigning meaning to things and experiences. This is how we make sense of our world. But this process becomes a problem when we give too much meaning to the wrong things or interpret events in ways that form limiting beliefs. Many of us seek meaning in the wrong places; we allocate it to external things such as fame, accomplishment, or material objects. We habitually think in ways that limit us, restrict us, and hold us back while we miss out on the beauty and wonder of life.
Dream University ® Certified Dream Coaches ® see this often when their clients have made mistakes, suffered a loss, or been betrayed. Those individuals interpret these kinds of events as meaning something about them, and as a result they form a belief that they can expect more of the same. If you did the sacred wound exercise in from Step #2, however, you will have seen a powerful example of this and seen how your belief can shift from victimization to empowerment. What other experiences in your life have you interpreted in such a way as to form a belief about yourself? Are those beliefs working for or against your dreams? Are they encouraging or inspiring you to take greater risks, or are they causing you to play it safe and seek certainty? The meaning we assign to a single event can either be liberating or devastating. Take a moment and check in with the pivotal moments in your life. What meaning did you consciously or unconsciously assign to them, and what’s another perspective you could adopt right now?
Attitudes and beliefs can be negative or positive, but they do not need to be barriers to achieving what you want. Use them to your advantage!