Do you ever feel like there are multiple people living inside your head, each with a different voice and opinion? Are parts of you saying “yes,” while other parts are holding you back? Hearing voices doesn’t make you crazy—it just makes you human. We all have a cast of characters living inside of us, and at different times we might be run by one voice over another. Unfortunately, sometimes those characters don’t agree with each other.
When it comes to making your dreams come true, there are four particular aspects (i.e., the characters above) of the self that you need to become familiar with: the Dreamer, the Doubter, the Realist, and the Visionary. The Doubter voice is often heard saying such things as, “I don’t think that’s a good idea.” If you were to really crank the volume up on this voice, it might say, “Are you out of your mind?”
The Realist says, “Be realistic…” If we turn the voice of the Doubter down a bit, it becomes the voice of the Realist. Realists aren’t bad; as a matter of fact, they are important. However, if you are overly realistic, you might kill the passion around your dream.
The Dreamer says, “What if…?” The Dreamer imagines what might be possible, believes in the dream, and finds creative outlets. The Dreamer is an opportunist, always open to new potential and new opportunities.
The Visionary is the voice that says, “Anything is possible; let’s dream big!” If you turn up the voice of the Dreamer, it becomes the Visionary. We’ll be returning to this voice in a later article, so keep it in mind as we continue our series.
For now, however, let’s focus on the voice that can most easily sabotage your dreams: the Doubter. When you decide to pursue your dreams, the Dreamer is often gung-ho, while the Doubter provides a laundry list of concerns and issues that only serve to hold you back. I’m sure you’ve encountered each of them at different moments throughout your life, and probably even as you’ve participated in the exercises in this series. In fact, you’ve probably encountered both at once, and I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re having a heated debate – even now.